February is the month of love – but what about emotions?
This is the month when people share their feelings and emotions, many revealing secret passions. This made us think about the subject of emotions and how they show up in the workplace.
We are not talking about workplace romances but rather how we display our emotional maturity at work. Being authentic and showing vulnerability can build trust and create stronger connections and relationships. However, lacking emotional control can make others uncomfortable and derail your progress within the organisation.
Robert Glazer reminded me of the need for emotional control (Glazer, 2021).
Honesty and Openness
People appreciate honesty and open sharing, but they shy away from those who break down in tears at every feedback session or overshare on their emotional roller coaster of relationships and challenges. Eventually, people will avoid the deluge of tears or tantrums and work around the individual. Likewise, leaders will be reluctant to give important tasks to people who may not be able to stay calm and see things through, preferring to promote someone to a management position who can control their temper and calmly face challenges or a crisis.
EQ (Emotional Intelligence) is more important than IQ in business success. EQ focuses on Self-Awareness and Self-Management, which are intrapersonal skills, and Relationship Awareness and Relationship Management which are interpersonal skills.
EBW Global’s model shows how these relate directly to performance in the workplace.
The message is clear. We are all human, and emotions help us connect and build relationships and trust. However, if you feel overwhelmed or unable to control your emotions appropriately in the workplace or have staff members who overshare or, perhaps, cannot manage their feelings. In that case, it is time to seek support. Find a coach who can help unpack the underlying issues and build the EQ skills to enhance self-confidence and self-esteem, relieve stress, and promote a more positive mindset and coping skills.
If you would like some help, get in touch with the Chameleon Skills team today.